the way that cis people conceptualize trans identity is so fucking exhausting for so many reasons, like not only is it invalidating to be misgendered in the first place, but then when it happens you have to decide whether to let it slide or whether to speak up about it and risk dealing with annoying or completely inappropriate questions that either should not be asked or could be easily googled. not to mention the percentage of cis ppl that take it as an opportunity to try to launch a theoretical debate about what gender is and isn’t, then putting you in the position of having to prove yourself and defend your own identity
on top of that, you aren’t even allowed to be upset about it b/c lots of cis ppl will try to make you look like the bad guy for not laughing it off or acting polite and understanding and willingly taking on an educator role with them
Take a moment to breathe. Notice: you are okay, you have survived, and you have made it. You are going to make it. You are alive. And you are breathing. Your heart is beating, you exist, and you are strong, you have survived.
assuming being gay is inherently about sexual deviance or hypersexuality is homophobic. what is wrong with this fucking website passing the idea that anyone discussing being gay must clarify whether or not sex is involved is progressive. weve really looped right back around to baseline homophobia
mark saltzman said he wrote these two childrens character as in love and gay. everyone (including sesame street) wants to focus on that relationship as being overtly sexual and inappropriate for children, because that is classic homophobia. how is the response “this is dismissive of people who dont have sex” instead of “this is a homophobic line weve been fed for ages because homophobes dont believe we can really feel love for one another, just lust”
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