vijara:

vijara:

the way that cis people conceptualize trans identity is so fucking exhausting for so many reasons, like not only is it invalidating to be misgendered in the first place, but then when it happens you have to decide whether to let it slide or whether to speak up about it and risk dealing with annoying or completely inappropriate questions that either should not be asked or could be easily googled. not to mention the percentage of cis ppl that take it as an opportunity to try to launch a theoretical debate about what gender is and isn’t, then putting you in the position of having to prove yourself and defend your own identity

on top of that, you aren’t even allowed to be upset about it b/c lots of cis ppl will try to make you look like the bad guy for not laughing it off or acting polite and understanding and willingly taking on an educator role with them